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February 5th, 2018 Working With Others: pages 99-100
If there be divorce or separation, there should be no undue haste for the couple to get together. The man should be sure of his recovery. The wife should fully understand his new way of life. If their old relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis, since the former did not work. This means a new attitude and spirit all around. Sometimes it is to the best interest of all concerned that a couple remain apart. Obviously, no rule can be laid down. Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day. When the time for living together has come, it will be apparent to both parties. Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back. This just isn't so. In some cases the wife will never come back for one reason or another. Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God. We have seen men get well whose families have not returned at all. We have seen others slip when the family came back too soon. Both you and the new man must walk day by day in the path of spiritual progress. If you persist, remarkable things will happen. When we look back, we realize that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in God's hands were better than anything we could have planned. Follow the dictates of a Higher Power and you will presently live in a new and wonderful world, no matter what your present circumstances!
Some thoughts on what we read:
We are beyond human aid. Not a single person had the power to stop our drinking, we had to rely on a Power greater than ourselves. This means that we also can get sober regardless of the presence or absence of another human being in our life. As long as we are connected to the Power, we will continue to experience the fruits of sobriety
When we are connected to our Higher Power, we truly become a vessel. I consider myself a sub par public speaker. Phrases get jumbled, I lose my train of thought, forget what I was saying, and trip over words. Its not pretty. When working with others I always pause and pray before hand, asking my Higher Power for wisdom and to show me who he would have me be. Its amazing the profoundness of the message I end up bringing when I do this. When connected, the words almost flow out of my mouth.